Archive | March, 2018

My Birthday

31 Mar

Tomorrow is my birthday. I won’t say “which” birthday. I am too many years over 40 now and I’m not happy about it. I know it beats the alternative. I am very blessed too but I sure feel old lately. For my birthday I asked Kevan if I could have a few hours to myself. I wanted to go to to eat alone. No kids screaming, no kids throwing food or wanting to go to the bathroom with me. I didn’t want to have conversation. Lol. I just wanted to be alone. I am an introvert. If I could spend a whole day reading a book all by myself I would be in heaven. I love being alone. Here is my alone birthday lunch today (they are not open tomorrow due to Easter).

Then, I wanted to go see a movie by myself. Yes, I love to go to the movies alone. I don’t know why people don’t like it. It isn’t like you can talk during the movie anyway. Unfortunately, our local cinema had no movies that I felt like I wanted to waste 2 hours on. So, I’m going to go home, to our media room and watch something on Amazon. Kevan is going to make me some popcorn. I’m still not sure what movie I’m going to waste my time on.

Speaking of Kevan. He has been so great. I’m so glad to have such a helpful husband right now during this crazy transition of going from one child to two. I have no idea how I would do it without him. I love you babe. I’m glad you are the one I’m walking through this journey with.

This morning we took the boys to their Grandpa’s farm. We brought or small and big 4 wheelers. They had a blast.

Riding with daddy…

Riding with Papa…

Riding the tractor spike like a horsey. They just did this. Lol. I didn’t tell them to.

Riding the tractor together…

Between rides this was Malachi….wanting to hold our hands…

While little brother explored…

We had a picnic lunch…

Does this 4 wheeler make me look big? 😂

Lets race daddy….

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The cows didn’t really care about us…

Now, I’m leaving the restaurant to go watch a movie. Then, I might make me some cupcakes with the boys for my birthday cake. 🎂

Surgery Has Been Scheduled

29 Mar

We had a conference call with Malachi’s cardiologist this morning and we’ve scheduled surgery! If all goes well he will have his first open heart surgery on May 8th. This is contingent on whether Boston agrees with the plan or if they feel we should go a different route. If so, we will pray, evaluate and choose which one we think is best for Malachi. But, we are praying for agreement. It sounds like a great plan, we love the doctors and we would really love to stay in Nashville for the surgery instead of going to Boston. If the Lord does not like this plan then we hope he makes it clear to us.

During the surgery they will be removing the stent from the right pulmonary artery since it is already well supplied and has already grown. Then, they will put a shunt on the left pulmonary artery and join the two arteries together (for now). This will (hopefully) guarantee that the right won’t steal all of the blood flow and the left will also receive it. If I understand correctly. Kevan understands all this way more than I do. While he is under anesthesia they will be doing 2 tests to help understand his heart better for his next surgery. Yes….next surgery. It will also be open heart. They will be doing an esophageal echocardiogram and a 3 dimensional CT of his heart (this will allow them to actually hold Malachi’s heart in their hand and make sure they totally understand it). They mostly want to see just how big his VSD (hole) is. After the surgery Malachi will be in ICU for several days on a ventilator. Once he is free from initial danger they will remove the ventilator and he will move to a normal room for 5-7 days. During this time they will be monitoring his heart/lungs and incision to make sure everything is going well. Then, he will be sent home to recover with pain meds (if needed), blood pressure meds and lasix to help with any extra fluid. No rough housing, no jumping off furniture and no lifting. Then, they will perform cardiac caths to make sure the left pulmonary artery is growing like should. The first one will be about 4 months later.

Once the left pulmonary artery is ready (praying it will grow and it will grow in God’s perfect timing!), he will hopefully be a candidate for a biventricular repair. Since he has 2 chambers and only one is currently being used it would be so wonderful if they could do this surgery for him and get them both working properly. We want a heart with two pumping ventricles!

Please be in prayer that:

  1. Boston agrees with the plan unless God has another plan for Malachi. If He does, that God would give Kevan and I wisdom.
  2. That they do not find any infection or anything at his dental appointment next Friday that would put off the surgery.
  3. That God would give us opportunity at his appointments, surgeries, etc to bring Him glory and be a witness for him.
  4. That Malachi will do amazingly well during surgery with no complications.
  5. That Kevan and I will come up with a plan for Josiah during this time. We will want to be with him as much as possible during this time too.
  6. That Malachi will stay healthy and not catch any sicknesses.

Thank you to all that care about Malachi and are praying for him!

More Oxygen….Way More Fun

29 Mar

It has been 5 days since Malachi’s cath procedure. He’s been doing great. Playing non stop, running, walking all over the place and he literally never stops. In China he would walk a few steps and then he would reach up to have us carry him or put him in the stroller. He would never run. Having more oxygen is way more fun. He walked all over Vanderbilt Hospital on Monday and only one time Kevan carried him and it was mostly to cover him from the cold/wind. Yesterday I noticed that he was coughing and breathing heavy a few times during the day and he hadn’t done this the day before. Now, he did do this before the cath procedure so we were used to it before, but he was doing so well with oxygen sats in the low 80s that he wasn’t doing this anymore. I monitored his sats throughout the day when I would see him struggling and they were always in the 60s. I was getting worried so around 3pm I called the doctor. The doctor returned my call around 4pm and she was concerned that there may be a problem with the stent or that his lungs were suffering from the sudden oxygen. She wanted us to take him directly to the Vanderbilt ER…..which is a 2 hour drive. Kevan wasn’t home and he had the car with the car seats. He was on a long errand. In the meantime, his sats went up to 79 so the doctor said we could wait. If they were in the 60s again on Wednesday we would need to take him. He really seemed fine other than the coughing/hard breathing and we’ve experienced that with him before. Kevan called around 5pm and told me he still wouldn’t be home for another hour….I checked Malachi again and his sats were in the upper 60s. I was worried. Kevan started to get worried so we decided that I would pack all of our things for a hospital stay and when Kev got home we would start loading the kids and things then head to Nashville. We went along with our plan. Arrived at Vandy at about 10:30pm (due to stopped traffic on i-24 due to construction). About 1 minute from the hospital Malachi threw up. He is very smart and is now tuned into what the area near the hospital looks like and I could tell he was starting to worry as we got close. Fortunately, I am prepared for this now and was able to catch it in a bag before it made a mess. We decided that Kevan would go with Malachi to the ER while I took Josiah to my mother-in-law’s home (she lives 30 minutes from the hospital). We were both already exhausted.

Once Kevan walked in they were already ready for Malachi. His sats were in the lower 80s the WHOLE time. I felt like we brought him in for nothing. They did an X-ray and verified that the stent/lungs looked good. No issues. It was about 11:30. I was already in bed at my mother in laws and Josiah was also asleep. They were releasing Kev/Malachi soon and I didn’t have it in me to go back and get them. My very gracious mother in law went. I had actually already fallen asleep. Kev had texted her and arranged for her to come. I didn’t wake up again until about 2:15am when they laid Malachi next to me. It was determined that Malachi is playing a lot more than he used to before the cath/stent. He is loving this oxygen and he is overdoing it a bit. So, we have to start getting him to rest. Which means….I have to be okay with more TV and tablet time. Ugh. This means Josiah will have more too and we have noticed when Josiah watches TV or plays with the tablet he gets WAY more moody.

So, Wednesday we already had an appointment with an ENT for Malachi. We found out on Monday he has a perforated ear drum in his right ear. We had to get up early and drive to Murfreesboro to make the appointment. The doctor looked him over and unfortunately the perforation is 5mm….very large. So, it will require surgery. He will have to go ear infection free for 1 full year before they can do surgery. Since we do not know when his last ear infection was….we will have to wait 1 year. I do not want him having this surgery. I hate it for him. They will have to cut a small piece of skin from near his ear (from his skull) and use it during the procedure. It will be outpatient, but I am going to PRAY PRAY PRAY that this closes on its own. The doctor said that doesn’t happen with perforations this big….but my God is bigger and I am so praying with a mama heart that he won’t have to go through this surgery. Also, he has a little hearing loss in that ear but it will be better once he has the surgery.

After the ENT we met with the cardiologist. She is in the same office, knew we were there and knew that we took him to the ER the night before. After the ENT appointment they gave Malachi a blue lollipop. Obviously, this isn’t good for a heart patient who has cyanosis and is blue a lot. So, the cardiologist told the ENT doctor if he is sending another patient over to see her he is not allowed to give them blue lollipops. It was funny. We had a good laugh about it.

Malachi’s stent:

We found out that they are having another conference about Malachi tomorrow morning at 7-9am. We will know more after the conference on what Vanderbilt is proposing for next steps. We have an idea, but I’ll wait until tomorrow to write it up. We found out how much more of a miracle boy Malachi is. She told us that normally kids his age with such a large VSD (hole) have terrible lungs and they would not have lived this long due to the damage that size of a hole would cause to the lungs. But, because Malachi didn’t have working pulmonary arteries the blood was not mixing and causing lung issues. This gives us so much hope that after a few surgeries our sweet boy might have a heart with both working chambers, pulmonary arteries and lungs that are still in good shape! He currently can’t keep up with Josiah but maybe one day he will be able to. I have so many hopes and dreams for this boy and I will be praying hard that God continues to do miracles for this sweet boy. He has already done so much for him and has been with him since the beginning. Thank you Lord. We are so thankful for your amazing grace in Malachi’s life and for loving him so much.

Doctor’s appointments with a 2 year old and a 6 year old have been CRAZY. It is exhausting. I’m thankful that we won’t have another one for about a week. We will be able to enjoy being home for several days. Thank you for praying for our family. God bless you all.

This is what we do while waiting for doctors:

Cath Procedure

23 Mar

Since I know everyone is waiting to hear the results first I will tell that first, followed by the post I wrote earlier while waiting. The first thing the doctor said to us was, “what do you think about pink for your boy instead of blue?” I immediately got teary eyed. We want pink!!

Look at those pink lips!! He’s never looked so good since we’ve had him. The doctor showed us lots of pics and videos. It was very helpful to understand when the videos went with the commentary. The best news is….they found a right and a left pulmonary artery! Praise God and thank you for your prayers. Now, Kevan is the smart one in the marriage so I don’t know if I will say this all correctly. He isn’t here with me so I can’t run it by him.

Anyway, the right pulmonary artery measured 5mm but when shot with contrast it got really small and we could barely see it in the video. The doctor put a (balloon?) stent in and we could see it open up the blood flow. It was awesome. His oxygen sats went from 65-70 baseline to 82! They said he will feel a lot better. I’m so excited to see pink lips on my beautiful boy. Now, some bad news to pray about. The left pulmonary artery was also visible (great news) but it is only 2mm. Too small. They will have to do an additional surgery (open heart) and add in a centralized stent that will expand the artery over time (several years). Please pray that it will work for him and that the surgery is successful for him. I can’t imagine how he will feel with sats in the 90’s! Lastly, they did a partial exchange transfusion due to his polycythemia (height red blood cells). His #’s went from 75 to 68 and they are hoping for 60. We are very excited for Malachi. He is still asleep and will be waking in the next hour and we will be moved to a room for the night. There is a chance his lungs may freak out a little due to the extra oxygen. He will also have extra fluid so they are giving him lasix. Pray that his lung doesn’t freak out but accept and love this extra oxygen. He has already opened his eyes and cried. He is frightened. Please say a prayer for him right now that God would comfort him and He will give him smiles tonight even through this scary-ness. That I will be able to comfort him and know his needs and desires without him having to verbally communicate.

What I wrote earlier:

Today Malachi had his first cath procedure. We left Josiah with his Nana so he wouldn’t have to sit in the waiting room all day. Nana was very gracious to give up her Friday to play with a toddler all day. One that was a bit emotional after he realized mommy and daddy left. 😕

We arrived at the hospital at 9. Malachi now recognizes the parking garage so he started to sniffle and breathe heavy when we were parking. He gets the saddest look on his face when he is worried about what is about to happen. I can’t wait until we can fully communicate with him and I can explain and calm him a little. He played in the waiting room a bit and his spirits were better until they called us to get his vitals. He started to whine some but he lifted his arm willingly to get the blood pressure cuff. Then, we waited until they took us back to a holding room. We nice they did the tears started coming down. It was so sad. I got him dressed into his gown and then Kevan held him while they brought in a translator machine. They talked him through what would be happening and showed him on a little doll. He loved the doll and doing the doctor work on the doll but he never acknowledged he understood the translator. 😞 We even asked him yes or no questions.

How does this sweet boy that has only known his mom and dad for 3 weeks trust us so much? He is so strong. He is a warrior with such a sweet heart.

They brought him some meds to take that would help him become drowsy but he spit most of it out. I guess it tastes pretty bad. He got enough though and he fell asleep a few minutes later. They took him back shortly after. It took a little over 3 hours.

I wanted to do something sweet for him for being such a strong boy today. Since I won’t have time to shop before we leave the hospital I bought him a PJ Masks (his favorite show) puzzle on Amazon and it will be delivered on Sunday. Wish I had thought of it before so he would’ve had something when he woke up. 😞

Prayers please: 2nd Cardiology Appt

22 Mar

We would like to ask for some specific prayers. We had another cardiology appointment today for Malachi. We discussed his catheterization tomorrow. Malachi’s blood is VERY thick. He can get clots easily so they are going to drain some blood off and replace it with saline (can’t remember the technical word for it). Then, they are going to test how blood flow works to his lungs…how is it getting there…what are the pressures and flows? There is a possibility that the doctor can help his current blood flow to his lungs by placing a stent or two. We are really hoping this is possible for Malachi. Specific prayers:

  1. That they will be able to increase his oxygen in the short term…until he has his open heart surgery.
  2. That they will find good pressures and flows.
  3. Find a (even a partial) pulmonary artery to his lungs – oh please Lord hear our prayers!
  4. That Malachi will not be nervous.

As soon as we got to the parking garage Malachi started whimpering and hyperventilating. 😞 Then, he did the same throughout the office visit. I believe a lot of the nervousness comes from us not being able to successfully communicate to him during the visits. He doesn’t know he won’t get a shot or get blood taken or be put in the hospital. So, he threw up…..all over. I normally have an extra pair of clothes for him but they were in the car. They had to give us some hospital clothes for him to wear home. I want to mention that we took Josiah with us to the appointment too and he did great.

Here are a few pics of our day.

Malachi with a “clean” vomit bag as a hat. Lol.

Malachi’s Heart

17 Mar

We had our first appointment with his cardiologist yesterday. We received good news and bad news. We are going to pray for better news once they do the cath next week. We brought Josiah with us to the appointment. Neither of us were ready to be separated from each other after 2 weeks apart. He did ok for a 2 year old at a 2.5 hour appointment. I am not used to how much 2 boys eat and I did not bring enough snacks and drinks. Luckily, their office had some goldfish and bottled water for the boys. Here are some pics of them together. I got out the lollipops at one point too. Josiah still isn’t sure if he likes them.

We were late to our appointment because having 2 boys is a lot harder than 1. I am going to have to start planning better. The appointment was at 11 and we didn’t leave until 1:45. She literally talked with us for over 2 hours on what Malachi’s heart looks like, how it is functioning, why he’s a miracle and why we need to start fixing it sooner than later. Josiah’s nap time is usually 1 so he was starting to crash but overall I think they both did well.

The cardiologist drew us a picture of a healthy heart and Malachi’s heart next to it. The good news is that he has 2 fully formed ventricles and 2 fully formed atria. What we’ve been calling TGA is true, the aorta is where the pulmonary artery would be but there is no pulmonary artery (it never formed). He has pulmonary atresia. He will need a unifocalization procedure on his major arterial pulmonary collateral arteries (MAPCAs) as well as a shunt. The blood flow that would go through the pulmonary artery has been handled instead by collateral arteries. These are smaller and there are many of them. Because of this he would not be a candidate for a heart transplant. 😔 While I never want him to have to go through a transplant it is hard to hear that he wouldn’t even have the option if ever needed.

The next step is for him to have a catheterization next Friday. We meet with the doctor on Thursday to discuss the cath and then he will have it done at 9am Friday. He will need to spend the night and we will go home the next day. This cath will tell the doctor’s hemodynamics (pressures and flows) which will help determine future surgeries.

When we arrived home yesterday he clapped and cheered when he saw our house. I think he is still unsure what “home” is. He sure was happy to be back.

Our Miracle Boy

15 Mar

After 2 flights and one layover of Malachi vomiting up all fluids and solids we decided we needed to take him straight to Vanderbilt Children’s Hospital when we landed. We assumed that this was all a result of motion sickness. He’s been in an orphanage for 6 years. He hasn’t traveled in a vehicle much let alone an airplane. We tried one more time on the way from the airport to see if he could keep water down. He couldn’t so we brought him in. He was so weak.

We checked him in and they brought us to a room within 5 minutes. It was a very warm room since he does better with his oxygen sat when he’s warm. When talking to the staff initially we told them that he has transposition of the greater arteries (TGA), VSD, DORV and PS and that it is unrepaired (he’s never had surgery). They would ask, “he had an initial surgery though.” Nope, he’s 6. No surgeries ever. They told us it was a miracle he was still alive. Yes, we know. God has been with this boy. He has a plan for his life.

Then, about 10 people surrounded us. They were so curious to see this amazing kid. Malachi is so strong. He can’t speak the language. He doesn’t know where he is. We can’t tell him what is happening without using an interpreter over the phone. Yesterday was hard. He is the most compliant child. All the doctors have commented. You can see the internal struggle on his face when he is worried about what is going on. When he knows they are going to take blood he whines a little and tears start dripping from his eyes but he never really shows out or anything. It is pitiful to watch because I know he’s trying to be strong.

Getting another X-ray:

They took him for a CT scan yesterday. I went with him and wore a vest so I could be in there with him. Kev and I are all he knows right now and I want to make sure he knows at least one face as he’s looking around. He was frightened of the CT machine. He whined and has tears falling. But he was so strong. I held an iPad so he could watch a video in Mandarin (something familiar) during the CT. To hold his hand and tell him Mama is with him and he’s so brave and it won’t hurt is so crazy. This poor boy didn’t even understand what a mama was 14 days ago. I’ve only been his Mama for 13 days and I’m hoping that this bond we have after this short time will provide some comfort to him. I can’t imagine what he is thinking and how scary it is. He’s had multiple x-rays, a CT, IV, an echo and an EKG. He’s been on oxygen and is back off it now.

As far as his dehydration, he is so much better. He is his happy and smiling self again. They brought him some play dough and puzzles to play with.

What we’ve found out so far about his heart condition: he has TGA, VSD, DORV and Pulmonary Atresia not pulmonary Stenosis. Due to the PA we may not have the surgical option we were hoping for and we aren’t sure at this point if he has many options at all. 😢 We will know more after his catheterization next week. They will also be sending his records to a doctor at Stanford and to Boston Childrens. We’d like to ask for prayer that God will allow him to have surgery options and that he will be able to play and walk around normal without breathing and oxygen issues. That God will bless him and he will have a long life and not a shortened life due to his heart. I am having a hard time worrying about him and that he may not be able to run around one day or have s long life. As his mama, I want so much for him.

Well, that is all the update we have for now. I’m about to get a translator on the phone to let him know we will be going home soon. 😀

Traveling back to the US

14 Mar

At 9pm we rode to the airport. Our wonderful guide got us a driver and she came along with us. When we got to the airport she helped us to our airline check in so that we could check our bags. All 4 bags were under 50lbs. Yay!! One was like .8 over but they didn’t charge us. She spoke to the guy at the check in desk for us. Explained our situation and that we needed to sit together. He had no space for 3. He put 1 of us with Malachi and the other 6 rows back. We were going to have to ask if someone would move for us. It was very unlikely since Kev had a middle seat and he would have to exchange for someone with an end seat. 😢

We were at the airport gate and an American woman started talking with us. She lives outside the US right now and was flying home for a wedding. We were telling her we didn’t have seats together and she said she would pray that someone will move so we can sit together. Then they called for special boarding. Unfortunately, we had to go outside the gate, get on a bus (which meant lifting the stroller onto the bus and in other cases a wheelchair…no ramp). They drove us out to the plane and we had to carry Malachi up all the steps to board the plane. I was upset that he was seeing the huge plane. I thought he might get scared but he seemed excited. Always a smile. He was moving his arms out like an airplane and screaming something in Chinese. 😊

We took our seats. I sat next to Malachi and a Kev sat 6 rows back. Then we waited to see who would be sitting with us while I prayed silently that the person would want Kevs middle seat. I was helping Malachi with something and heard someone say, in English, “Are you ready for a blessing from the Lord?” The seat belonged to the woman we spoke to st the gate. Tears started streaming down my face. She said she wanted to take Kevs seat. God is amazing. Kev and I were both in tears to see God work this out for us.

The rest of the flight was pretty uneventful except for the 5 times that Malachi threw up. Being at the orphanage for 6 years didn’t give him much time in a vehicle or plane. So he seems to get motion sick very easily. He threw up all over himself and me while Kevan and I tried to hurry and find something to help. Fortunately, I had 2 extra outfits for him. Unfortunately, for me….I didn’t. Lol. I’m looking forward to a shower and change of clothes. We have 1 more flight to go. Please pray no more vomiting! He has pretty much laid between us the rest of the flight. Sleeping or just laying. He still smiles every now and then. He is so sweet. He has not eaten except for a lollipop. The water has had he has thrown up. Prayers that we can get him hydrated too. Any advice on helping cover kids who vomit in cars or any suggestions that might help would be great. We have many car rides the next few days to Nashville and back.

Consulate Day

12 Mar

Today we had our appointment at the US Consulate. It took about 2 hours but Malachi was great. There was a little play area for kids but until it cleared out some he didn’t want to play. He warmed up to it when there were only a couple kids left. We were not aloud to bring our phones or cameras so we couldn’t take any pics. They are expediting his visa so we should be able to get it tomorrow and we start to travel back home tomorrow night. Here is a pic that our guide took before we went in.

We went to Shamian Island today to site see and shop. We bought the family some traditional Chinese outfits, ate some American food at Lucy’s (it didn’t taste as good as American but it helped with the burger craving) and we walked around a lot. I’m exhausted. The Pearl River surrounds the island. Here is a pic of Kev and I. It was difficult to get Malachi in at the time as he was in the stroller watching boats.

We had 2 drop in oxygen episodes with Malachi today. The first time I took him into Starbucks to change him. The bathroom was freezing and his temp dropped too fast which makes his oxygen fall. He couldn’t stop coughing and his teeth were chattering so bad. I had to carry him back out to the stroller. I was afraid to let him walk he was so blue. The second time he was playing with bubbles that Kevan was blowing for him. It was sad to see that what kids would think is just normal play for them his little body could hardly handle. He got so blue and was coughing so bad I made him come back and sit in the stroller. Poor little guy. I checked his oxygen after we got him settled and sitting still and it was 45. Probably lower though since it took us awhile to get him settled.

There were a lot of people taking pictures. When I first saw this guy I thought he was a mannequin but quickly realized he was s model.

All over Guangzhou we see men and women sweeping with these brooms.

Pretty scenery.

Adoption Feedback Errors

11 Mar

Before we decided to go forward with Malachi’s adoption we spoke to several parents of China adoptees. Some had very negative things to say and we almost let it sway our decisions, but we could tell when speaking to them that they just had a negative personality. We prayed a lot and asked God for wisdom and the positive feedback from other adoptive parents outweighed the few negative folks and we also felt like God wanted us to be his parents.

Here are some of the negatives and how it has panned out so far:

  • He won’t be able to eat with a fork. Orphanage kids only eat with their hands. Result: Malachi eats with utensils and chopsticks better than most adults. He doesn’t like messes either. He wants me to wipe his face, the table when it has crumbs or his pants if he misses his mouth. Unfortunately they don’t give out napkins here in China though so we have to remember to bring them with us.
  • He only eats food at room temperature so he won’t like hot soup or ice cream. Result: He loves hot soup and ice cream.
  • He won’t know how to brush his teeth and probably never has. Result: as soon as we handed him his toothbrush he knew exactly what to do. He did think it was funny for all of us to brush our teeth together. Also, it is a battery operated toothbrush and he loves it. He’s actually excited to brush his teeth. Happiest kid in the world.
  • He will probably be scared of water since he’s never had a bath. Result: the highlight of this kids day is bath time. He loves it. Now, he does not like the sound of the drain. It does scare him but I just wait and do the drain once he’s out.
  • He will probably still be in diapers. Result: unfortunately this one is more true. He does know how to use the toilet but he does not let you know when he needs to go. You have to take him every hour and a lot of times you don’t get the timing right. We’ve been using pull ups during the day and night. We’ve had many blow outs. Many change of clothes due to accidents. 😞 Today, we put him on the toilet and he peed and got down. We washed his hands and put on a clean diaper. By the time we walked to the living room his diaper was dirty! Like not even a full minute. 😱
  • China is no fun. It is a hassle and everyone is rude. Result: we’ve had a lot of fun here. Most people have been really nice. There were a few times we saw loud yelling at stores but no one has been particularly rude to us. Most people are helpful. Now, the Chinese do not honor personal space. They will cut in front of you or knock you when walking by but I don’t think they perceive this as rude like we would in the US. The only rough part has been finding good food and trying to understand the menus. Today I ordered chicken fried rice and got fried chicken with white rice on the side. Lol

Take what some people say with a grain of salt. Now, he did spend 6 years of his life in an orphanage but they took great care of him. I’m very thankful for all they’ve done for him. I’m sure he will have some delays and emotions from being there so long but God will help us along the way.