The last 10 years….

7 Oct

I started writing this on our anniversary (2 days ago) and just finished it up tonight….

I’m sitting in the lobby of a state park right now waiting for Kevan to finish working.  It is the only place that had WiFi and Kevan needs to put in a few hours of work this morning.  Today, is our 10 year wedding anniversary.  So, since I have to sit here and wait for him I thought I would think back to when we first met and got married.  Our marriage together has had many more good times than bad and I am very thankful for that.  We’ve had our share of “bad” times, but through much prayer and scripture reading (and sometimes many arguments.  Haha!) we have made it through each of those times and I believe our marriage is stronger for it.

We had the sweetest dating relationship.  We tried so hard to have a God honoring courtship.  Kevan felt very strongly about his convictions and how he treated me during our courtship and I am so thankful for it.  It really showed me that he cared more about what God called us to as a couple and not about our physical desires.  Of course, even though we only dated 9 months before we got married it was a very LONG 9 months it seemed.  lol!  Also, Kevan wanted to make sure we were TOTALLY compatible so we did many things together to make sure we would make it once we were married.  We visited our families as much as possible and received feedback from our parents.  My parents loved Kevan. We received feedback from our friends and no one had any reservations about either of us.  We went to a monster truck show (we both loved it!), hiking, camping, cat shows (Haha!), road trips and through many doctor’s appointments (I had recently found out I had Graves Disease) and had a lot of fun together during our dating time.

Kevan felt like engagement was a “promise” of marriage so we went through pre-engagement counseling with our pastor before we got engaged.  It was kind of funny since we had only been dating about 2 months when we started meeting with the pastor.  Then, right before the 6 month mark he told Kevan we couldn’t come to anymore marriage counseling sessions because the things we needed to discuss next we would need to be engaged.  At one point the pastor had us each write letters to each other about why we loved each other and why we wanted to marry them.  I wrote mine on pink paper and scented it with perfume.  LOL!!!  I still have the letters.  I remember Kevan’s letter said that he loved me because I made him smile and he had never laughed so much in his life.  Isn’t that so sweet??  So……then…..I started to wait for the proposal.  🙂  Kevan designed my engagement ring himself and ordered the actual diamond through a company in New York because he wanted to have the best one for the money.  It was very sweet.  (Unfortunately, since my surgery and removal of my lymph nodes last year my hands are now too swollen to wear my rings and we haven’t been able to find a jewelry store to make them larger for me.  Hopefully, soon!  I miss them!)  Anyway, Kevan took me to the mountains and proposed to me on an overlook.  Here we are at that same overlook on our 1 year anniversary.  We were both a lot thinner then.  My waist was about 10 inches smaller than it is now.


Here is a picture of me from one of our wedding showers.  Look how young i look.  I also was still able to sit cross-legged.  Since chemo and my torn labrum…..I can’t do it anymore without pain.  It is my FAVORITE way to sit.  😦

Wedding Shower

One of the really cool things is that Kevan’s mom worked at a Wedding Chapel in Nashville at the time of our engagement.  Our current church was holding their services in a rented school building so we didn’t want to get married there.  So, we were married at the Wedding Chapel in Nashville and our pastor was able to marry us.  The only sad part was that only a few of my immediate family members attended (parents, sister, brother and sister-in-law) because it was so far from Michigan.  But, we did have about 100 people attend the wedding.  It was a wonderful day and the weather was beautiful.  Here is one of my favorite pictures of Kevan from our wedding (below)….he looks so young and sweet.  Love him so much!

Wedding Pic

I didn’t want to spend a lot on our wedding and be paying for it for years later.  So, I rented my dress for $250.  That included the jewelry I wore and the alterations.  It was great.  I didn’t feel like I needed to keep my dress and figured if I had a daughter she wouldn’t want to wear mine by the time she married so I was okay with it.  Kevan wanted a limo so we did rent a limo to drive us to the reception and to the hotel afterwards.  Then, for the reception we just asked family members to bring food for us.  It was delicious and we had two couples contact us after and ask who the caterers were.  J  Lastly, a friend of Kevan made some wine for us as a wedding gift so we were able to provide wine for our wedding toast.  It was a perfect day.  Unfortunately, I forgot my makeup bag at the reception and Kevan forgot his passport in the trunk of our car so my mother-in-law had to make TWO trips to our hotel suite that night to bring us our forgotten items.  It was a good 30 minute drive for her.  But, it gives us a funny story to tell others since most couples don’t invite their mother-in-law up to their hotel suite on their wedding night. She came up and chatted with us while I ate one of the best ham/cheese omelets I’ve ever eaten.  I was hungry. Lol!  (Here were are leaving the wedding to go to the reception.)

Wedding Pic 2

We left at about 5am for the airport the next morning to fly to Saint Marten.  We got a really good deal through a timeshare and it was a very inexpensive trip.  We had a really good time together.  Although, we both imagined what our honeymoon would be like and we had imagined it VERY differently.  I imagined laying around on the beach relaxing with my new husband and Kevan imagined driving around and seeing EVERYTHING there was to see on the island.  Every beach, every restaurant, every thing.  I was exhausted by the end of our trip.  Also, the room we stayed in had an issue with the light switch and the shower so my handyman husband found a hardware store and fixed them both while we were there.  I remember thinking that this was my honeymoon!  I don’t want to go to a hardware store!  So, I stayed in the car and waited for him while he shopped.  lol!  We packed up to leave our room and when we looked in the safe our money had been stolen.  It was about $200.  We complained to the owners and they didn’t believe us.  We have a lot of fun memories from that trip though.  Driving around the island and seeing how the crazy traffic system was (no one obeys traffic signs/lights!), almost running into a herd of goats one night and how the French side treated us versus the Dutch side are just a few fun memories.  Unfortunately, all of our honeymoon pictures are on an old hard drive somewhere.

I also want to mention that I freaked out a little bit when we were on our honeymoon.  I didn’t tell Kevan until later, but I realized that I had just married someone that I hadn’t even known for a whole year.  I got scared that it wasn’t going to work out because “you probably shouldn’t marry someone you haven’t known at least a year”, right?  Well, it is safe to say that after 10 years of marriage, it worked out.  We are still very much in love.  Also, people said that the first year would be the hardest and we would fight a lot.  We had a wonderful first year of marriage….so that obviously isn’t the same for all couples.  I can only remember a few funny fights that we got into over stupid stuff (one was who got to use the bathroom first since we only had one.  LOL!!!).  But, we would just look at each other in the midst of yelling and then start smiling.  Then, everything would be right again.  Oh the honeymoon days.  lol!  Sweet days they were.  I can’t wait for another 10 years with this man!

Okay….I guess that is enough reminiscing.  I am in the middle of canning pears….and want to do a couple miles on the treadmill tonight so I will say goodbye.

——-here is a pic of my pears that I added later.  lol!  I am still learning and I probably should’ve put more pears in each jar, but at least I tried.  Right?  I have about 2 more batches to do this week.  Ugh!


2 Responses to “The last 10 years….”

  1. Michele October 7, 2013 at 2:31 am #

    I remember your beautiful wedding chapel and reception. I am glad I got to be part of it. I can’t believe it has beeen 10 years! Congrats!

  2. Judy October 7, 2013 at 3:34 am #

    Jayde, that was awesome to remenisce of your first ten years! Got happy tears at times! I am blessed to have such an awesome daughter in law! Love you, Judy

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