Post-Op Day 3

11 May

Today is my 3rd day post-op.  Kevan woke me up throughout the night to give me my pain meds, but my 6am dose was forgotten.  He thought my mom was going to be giving it to me so it was a misunderstanding.  So, when I woke up at about 8 I was in a pretty good amount of pain.  Once Kevan gave it to me though it only took about 20 minutes to start working.  Today the muscle pain is starting.  It is bad when I’m not medicated.  Since the pectoral muscle was cut on both sides in order to place the tissue expander behind the muscle I have muscle spasms.  The doctor gave me Valium for this, but I can only take it every 6 hours.  After about 4 hours I start to feel the spasms and I am ready to take it again at 6 hours.  I am amazed at myself that I am actually taking my pain meds.  Usually, I will just suffer in pain if I have a headache, cramps, etc.  But, this is a whole different kind of pain so I am happy to take the medication.

In the following paragraph…I don’t really want to be this honest, but I want to prepare other women that might go through this since I wasn’t prepared for what I was going to see.  So, I’m going to lay it all out for those women and hope that ya’ll won’t look at me funny when you see me in person.  It is only temporary.  God has the power to heal me and make me look pretty again.  I am clinging to His miracles and hoping for one.

Some of you may already have read my Facebook yesterday about seeing myself for the first time once Kevan removed the bandages from my chest.  It was VERY emotional.  I saw a little at the hospital, but I didn’t have a mirror so seeing it all was awful.  I was going to show my mom, but decided I didn’t want to subject her to the memory of it.  It is that bad.  I’m not even going to look again.  I could hardly stop crying and even cried to the nurse that called from the Plastic Surgeon’s office.  I don’t think they prepared me enough on how bad it was going to look as far as bruising, certain skin has turned black (due to lack of blood flow) and the tissue expanders are very easy to see at this point so my skin is lumpy.  It is very unnatural looking.  I immediately texted Kevan’s cousin who has also went through this and she assured me that this is temporary and it will get better each time I see my surgeon and once I receive my implants (after chemo) it will look great.  Thank you Alicia for being there for me yesterday.  Each week I will see the plastic surgeon to have a “fill” of saline and it will start to look better, but at this point it is hard to imagine.  Please pray that once this is over that I will be happy with the outcome.  I feel so bad for Kevan.  I wish I could hire a nurse to come and change my bandages just so he wouldn’t have to see it.

Ladies, be happy with what God has given you.  I was perfect before but didn’t appreciate it or realize it.  You are beautiful and wonderfully made by God.  Thank God for what you have and that you are cancer free.

I received a beautiful bouquet of flowers and balloons yesterday from Kevan and his mom.  So sweet of them.  Sorry for the cat tree behind them, but I can’t lift them to move them to a prettier spot.

Also, my dad bought me the cutest little kitty.  He knew that my cats will have to stay away from me while I have my drains.  So, he gave me one and I will always think of him when I see this little kitties cute face.  I LOVE HER!  You can’t tell from the picture but she has pretty blue eyes.  :o)
I’m looking forward to my first plastic surgeon visit next Wednesday.  I will see my oncological surgeon and physical therapist as well.

This is one of my bad days.  Breast cancer sucks.

5 Responses to “Post-Op Day 3”

  1. Anonymous May 11, 2012 at 2:47 pm #

    Jayde, my thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and Kevan. I am so glad for the support system you have! I would just add…cancer sucks. All kinds. 😦 Christine

  2. Barbarita Lee May 11, 2012 at 5:43 pm #

    Praying from Mexico. I'm glad you have great doctors & an amazing family there with you.

  3. Anonymous May 11, 2012 at 5:53 pm #

    Jayde,I think you are so amazeing to allow us, to go through this with you. You are such a sweet and beauitful person, and I am so glad to be your friend. I am sure this Blog is going to help someone else going thru the same thing, and it is also good for the families of others, so they have some insight as to what to expect and how to help. I pray for you and Kevin and your parents everyday. With love and prayers. Cheryl Whiteaker

  4. M, B and Little E May 11, 2012 at 6:22 pm #

    Praying for you and Kevan. God is still good, but yes, cancer does suck 😦 Thank for you being so open with your feelings. Praying that God will bring you joy in the midst of this pain.


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